The Viable Alternative

For years, when I would hear coaches, teachers and influencers talk about “masculine grounding” or “masculine presence”, although I had an intellectual understanding of what it was and would’ve been able to explain it to you from that understanding, on a deeper, more experiential level, I will admit that I was still clueless.

Up until recently, if you asked me what masculine grounding was, I would’ve told you that it is the state of being calm, centered, nonreactive, present and rooted in your body in the face of various situations.

I think that most people who are interested in this subject would’ve agreed with me if I shared this with them.

However, on a deeper level, what does that actually look like?

It was during the trials and tribulations I had faced this past spring along with going deeper into my daily Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations that I started to experience what that actually looked like.

At the root of masculine grounding and presence is being able to deal proactively with your thoughts and emotions.

It’s the understanding that you are an intangible, indefinable essence beyond your thoughts and emotions so you don’t need to identify with them.

When you’re not identified with your emotions, there’s no need to judge them as “good” or “bad.”. Because you’re no longer judging the emotions that come up in your body as good or bad, there’s no longer an attachment or aversion to them and thus you’re no longer freaking out when the so called bad ones come up, nor are you chasing the so called good ones like a hit from a drug or clinging to them.

Freaking out over the “bad ones” includes going up into your head to create dramatic stories about them which in turn intensify the emotions in your body which in turn leads you to behave in ways that’s not beneficial for you, the situation you’re in and the people around you.

Freaking out over them also includes finding them so overwhelming, your nervous system shuts down and you go into freeze mode in order for your body to protect you from these feelings since you can’t handle them.

Since you know you’re separate from these emotions, you’re able to fully feel their sensations and let them wash over you the way lightning may hit a lightning rod and flow right through it while the rod remains solid.

This is where some people, especially men, go wrong. In the face of an intense emotion, many men think you handle them by stiffening yourself so that you don’t have to feel them. Now, while it can be argued that that may be a better way to react than just freaking out over them, when you behave in this way, you’re still admitting to yourself that you can’t handle these emotions and are identified with them because you see a need to cut them off or suppress them.

This will cause repercussions down the line because emotions have to find a way to make it out of our bodies, and they can’t when they’re being suppressed. Since they don’t magically disappear, they remain stuck in our bodies causing problems down the line.

In regards to all the negative thoughts that your mind may throw at you, you remain completely unresponsive to them and don’t take them personally because you know that they have nothing to do with you. You know that if you don’t react to them they’ll just fly by.

You’re able to be this way because you’ve been able to build an embodiment within you that gives you an energetic, visceral internal sense of safety that you’re able to handle a wide range of internal storms that may arise.

With this firm inner connection, you have grounding, and with this grounding, you have the capacity to be fully present to what’s going on internally and externally.

And, you know what?

Because you’re able to do this for yourself, you can now be that presence for women. They’ll be able to sense it and feel it off of you thus gaining their trust.

This is The Viable Alternative.

Hope this helps,

Ike Love